Oriya weddings are unlike the ones in several Hindu communities for Oriya matrimonial festivities are quite extraordinary. These functions last for quite a few days and each ceremony highlights a specific person of the bride or groom’s family for the ritual is supposed to be performed by them. It is a true fact that the bridegroom’s mother is not supposed to be present at the nuptials. In addition to this all of the senior ladies of the groom’s family are asked to stay away from the wedding.
There are quite a few intriguing customs, so read on to know more about the role of each family member in an Oriya wedding.
- The Fathers Participating in the Nirbandh
Even though Brahmin Oriya marriages take place in the day and other castes opt for evening functions, the ceremonies involving family members are many. The Nirbandh is the engagement ceremony that the fathers of the girl and boy initiate. Both the families meet up at the girl’s residence where the ceremony is to be conducted. In Oriya weddings, both the fathers make a promise to bind their children in matrimony.
However, this is a ceremony purely for the fathers of the couple for the bride and groom don’t involve themselves with the rite.
- The Jayee Anukolo for the Bride and Groom’s Maternal Uncles
At the time of the distribution of wedding invites that are better known as nimantran patras; Lord Jagannath gets the primary invite after which the others are sent. The girl and her groom’s maternal uncles are them supposed to get the next card before all of the other guests.
- Mangan with the Bride’s Female Relatives
This is a replica of a haldi ceremony where seven of the girl’s female relatives surround her at the time of the mangan. They then set about blessing her and spreading haldi on her body; however, all of the seven female relatives participating must be married as is the custom.
- Tilak after the Barajatri by the Bride’s Mother
The Barajatri is when the groom and his entire clan along with relatives arrive at the wedding venue or the bride’s home with much fanfare. The bride’s mother then has the custom of inviting them in after she has conducted the tilak ritual. This entails a short aarti of the groom after which she applies a tilak of rice grains to his forehead.
- Rites by the Bride’s Brother
While the couple stands next to the sacred fire, the bride’s brother has to offer fluffed rice to his sister who then sends it into the agni; this offering is called lajja. The bride’s brother also is involved in the sala bidha where he has to playfully beat his sister’s groom so that he remembers his responsibilities toward her.
- Kanyadaan by the Bride’s Father
During the wedding the father of the bride performs the kanyadaan where he hands over his daughter to the groom by putting fluffed rice on the couple’s hands.
All of the couple’s family members participate in the rites and rituals that bind them together, in a holy union.