Horoscope Matching: More of a Behavior Compatibility than Just Match Making

India is a land of customs and traditions, where long-lasting things have been valued and preserved because they have stood the test of time and proven themselves against the odds by surviving for so long. They are followed and praised because they have stood the test of time, the onslaught of non-believers and still have managed to hold their relevance through ages. One such tradition which has been an integral part of our Indian culture is the tradition of horoscope matching before marriage. Though considered baseless and age old by some, it still forms the very basis of marriage when we talk about Hindu marriages in particular.

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In modern times, the science behind horoscope matching is often questioned. With western culture becoming dominant worldwide, the practice of matching kundalis is often questioned and laughed upon. However, we need to understand the fact that a practice is only followed over the ages if it has a solid backing to it. We all know that the Vedas were written not by the common men, but the learned sages and scholars of that time. They had a wide knowledge of human traits, behaviors, and characteristics, and based on those only, they made rules that governed the society. The art of matching horoscopes too was based on certain behaviors and characteristics, based on which the compatibility of a couple was judged. The points to back the same are discussed below:

  • Horoscopes are based on genealogy: It is believed that the way horoscopes are made give us an insight into the genes that an individual carries. Being from a particular family tree, it is possible to predict the behavior and traits of a person whose horoscope is being considered. It gives us an insight into behavior trends that have been an integral part of that particular family, which may naturally get transferred to the perspective bride or groom.
  • Horoscopes are detailed: while matching horoscopes, 8 things are given primal importance. These include the physical attributes of a person, his or her characteristics as per the sun sign, behavior and mood swings as per the gana, the mental level and thinking process and his or her dominant characteristic as per the stars. Hence, it ends up giving us an in-depth view into the possible behavior pattern of a person.
  • Define the family to which a person belongs: One must always remember the fact that in India, you not only get married to an individual, but you have to adjust with his or her whole family. Since mostly all families believe in getting horoscopes of their children made at birth, this in a way, proves to be helpful, while matching kundalis before marriage. Horoscopes in a way provide you with a guideline, which points out towards the whole family to which the perspective bride or groom belong. It hence helps you in taking a better decision for your future.

What we need to understand is the fact that these rules of matchmaking, were based on a particular science, which defined to behavior patterns of human beings well. However, believing in it at the present age is purely a personal choice, which should not be forced upon. All the best!

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5 reasons you can still marry your lover even if horoscopes don’t match

India is a land of traditions and culture. Till date, we tend to follow these age-old practices in every form of life, which were established by our ancestors. Marriage too is no different. When we talk about horoscope matching, in particular, we still follow the rules, which were set by these ancient texts. In every Hindu marriage across India, matching of the horoscopes of the boy and the girl is considered to be of primal importance.

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However, we need to keep in mind the fact that times are changing. And with time, there are certain traditions and customs, that need to change too. Long gone are the days where the bride and groom use to meet each other on the day of their wedding. Today’s generation wants to get married to the person whom they love, know, respect and admire. They believe that no texts or methods which evolved thousands of years ago can define their compatibility with their better half. So if you are one such person who needs reasons to marry your lover despite your horoscopes not matching, we have here a list of top 5 such reasons:

  1. Trust your choice: remember the fact that you are an independent individual, who has the capacity to make strong decisions for yourself. The only reason you want to marry your lover is because you trust him, respect him, love him and understand him. This is all that is required for a perfect marriage. So, trust yourself and your choice.
  2. Horoscope matching is not a proven science: Though the astrologers swear by it still that does not change the fact that horoscope matching is not considered a science at the first place. So don’t let something that you don’t even know about decide the future course of your married life.
  3. Horoscope matching is not fooled- proof: There have been many cases where even though the match was considered perfect as per the horoscopes, the couples till hit splitsville. This itself shows that it is not our stars, but our own behavior and treatment towards our lover that form the basis of a compatible marriage.
  4. It is not acceptable worldwide: One should always keep in mind the fact that horoscope matching is only prevalent in India. No other couples in other country match horoscopes before getting married. Hence, it should not be fully trusted to define your compatibility with your partner.
  5. Understanding matters, stars don’t: It is important for you to understand your partner and vice-versa. It is mutual understanding and compatibility that form the basis of a strong marriage. This can only happen if you know and love the person well before you get married. No star inclination can lead to such understanding.

The practice of kundli or horoscope matching being followed in our society that has now become redundant and has lost its relevance. Believing in it at the present age is purely a personal choice, which should not be forced upon. It’s time to get above these practices and form a happily ever after with the one you love.

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5 reasons Why Kundali Matching doesn’t Make Sense in Today’s Time

There are some things in the world which are always in the eye of the storm with people continuously debating and analyzing the need and relevance of everything every time. Often the religious customs and traditions are a regular part of this discussion with sections of a society split wide open on their relevance in modern times with the onset of exposure and information being freely available at all times. But then there are some customs that with age and time become irrelevant and often end up becoming malpractices with people using it for their own vested interests.

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The practice of kundli matching is one such practice being followed in our society that has now become redundant and has lost its relevance. There are several reasons for the same and here we try to enumerate the five primary reasons why kundli matching has become more of a curse rather than a comforting custom in our modern lives and has now lost its relevance completely in today’s world.

Firstly, the proper literature and transcripts that should be present to verify this art are no longer present. The literature is not only required to provide proof to the non-believers but also help in training and educating people in order to continue this tradition, thus the knowledge that is available is flimsy and weak.

Secondly, the astute religious pundits and learned men required deciphering the exact meaning and answers to complex equations no longer exist. So the art is now being used just to get money out of people by instilling false fears in their heads. Kundli matching involves expertise to know if a couple can stay happy together and if they are made for each other but with the learned men now nowhere in sight, this has turned into a drama.

Thirdly, the broad and open mindset of couples today lends itself to the bride and groom ready to make adjustments in order to lead a happy life. No longer do they need the help of kundli to tell them whether someone is made for them or not. So once the couple decides to make the final plunge they do it after a lot of deliberation and hence feel obliged to make the relationship work despite odds.

Fourthly, the number of people who have to lead a happy and fulfilling married life despite their kundli not matching also makes it redundant as the kundlis and the so called fortune tellers are no longer in vogue and are no longer equipped with the same knowledge they used to have.

Lastly, it is that love conquers all. The modern generation understands that no amount of matchmaking, kundli matching will help them if they are not in love and in sync.

What must be remembered is that like all things kundli matching is also becoming redundant in modern times not because the art itself is faulty but the followers and preachers are now only in the business for vested interests with little or no actual knowledge. So be careful before taking a call.

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Does Kundali Matching Still Hold Good in Modern Times

Practices and rituals are often judged and followed on the basis of their longevity. There are certain practices that fade away with time and then there are some that continue for generations, turning them into traditions. These rituals and traditions are often misused and mal-practiced and often lead to the society being polluted in the name of fear. So customs which are essentially supposed to help us lead a better and a more organized life often end up becoming a source of apathy and discomfort in society. With time these traditions and practices tend to get diluted because of several reasons. The major reason being that lack of proper scriptures as well as written material to support the custom and explain to people its relevance. Also, the inability of learned men to pass on this knowledge from generation to generation. But very often the primary cause of this dilution is the vested interest of affected people to exploit others in the name of these customs and end up making these practices into malpractices.

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One such custom or practice being followed in India is the custom of Kundali matching. This practice has been criticized, appreciated, ignored and dramatized so much in our country that it becomes impossible to separate fact from fiction. With religious literary comparing it to Gods own will to atheists calling it a joke, Kundali matching has been the subject of many an animated discussion in our times. We try and take a closer look at this custom and try and decipher whether it still holds good in modern times.

The custom of matching kundalis of a bride and the groom before a match is finalized is a long standing tradition in the Hindu society. The pundits and several learned men have been at the arduous task of predicting what the future holds with the help of stars for long. According to the planetary positions of both the groom and the bride, the pundits try and predict whether the match will last or will it be detrimental to the pair. Religious literary have often described it to be an exact science and often cited the longevity of the tradition as proof of its success. Those that believe in it are often seen following the instructions are given by the pundits to the very minutest details. Often matches are not seen to go through because of the Kundali of the couple not matching.

But those who are not in favor of this custom are often seen ridiculing it in order to prove their point citing an example of couples who continue to lead a happy marital life despite their Kundali not matching. The trouble as is often the case with such practices is that the religious pundits are often seen misusing this custom to earn money and thus bringing disrepute to what could have been an age old tradition which could have qualified as a science even.

Finally, it is safe to say that the process of Kundali matching is relevant only to the extent that we want it to be because even if the kundali doesn’t match the couple if they love each other will find a way because as they say love conquers all.

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Things to Take Care of When Dating a Delhi Based Girl

Dating has become quite common in Delhi these days and even the teenagers these days tend to each other quite frequently. Most of you love to have a partner with whom you can share your problems and have fun with. But you must be a bit careful while in a relationship especially at an early age because if it fails, sometimes you tend to commit mistakes that lead you and your loved ones in bigger troubles.

Delhi dating couples don’t tend to last with each other in a relationship for more than a year and if you are looking for serious relationship, you must be very careful otherwise you may receive heartbreak from a Delhi based girl. Here are some of the things that you need to be wary of while dating a Delhi based girl:

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Never comment on her fashion sense:

All the Delhi based girls rate themselves very highly when it comes to the fashion and dressing sense. Thus, when you are in a relationship with a Delhi based girl, never make a negative comment or suggest any fashion idea to them as they tend to take it on their ego.

If you ever put a negative comment about your girlfriend’s fashion senses, then you have put the first step towards the end of your relationship.

Never stop them from bargaining:

Delhi dating girls are master at bargaining from the shops and they tend to get things at very cheap rates from the market. But as a boyfriend, you may feel frustrated with their bargaining habits and ask them not to do so as it is a waste of time.

Though it can have large scale implications on your relationship and you are sure to get some harsh words from your girlfriend. Sometimes, it may also result in a mini breakup and thus you need to be a little careful about this aspect.

Never comment on their eating habits:

One thing which is common with all the Delhi based girls is that they are all foodie and they all want to get slim.  They will keep complaining you about how they are not able to lose on their body weight but literally never give them a suggestion on this topic.

You will generally ask them to put a stop on eating so much and then they will say that you do not want to take them out for lunch and dinner. You may actually get into a bog fight with your girlfriend that ultimately may lead to your breakup.

Treat her equal to you:

The women of today consider themselves equal to men and want their partners to do the same. So, when you are dating a girl, don’t consider her as inferior to them because of gender difference.

Especially with the Delhi based girls, they do not tend to appreciate guys that lack respect for women and they want your respect more than your love. So, do not ever pretend yourself as superior while in a relationship these days.

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